Delay, confusion, distractions, and interference in the regular flow of important information are the principal impediments to a successful divorce. In mediation, couples can confidentially exchange information, identify possible settlement options, and even achieve “win-win” solutions, while diffusing the emotionality which naturally occurs when a couple divorces.
An estimated 95% of all Hawaii divorces do not go to trial. However, a case will not successfully settle until the spouses have sufficiently come to grips with the emotions of the divorce, gathered all the facts, and learned how the normal rules apply. Mediation accelerates the settlement process. While the anger, hurt, upset, and fear so prevalent in divorce will impose a formidable barrier to problem-solving discourse, a skilled mediator can help the couple overcome this barrier in most cases.
Mr. Darrah is the principal instructor for divorce mediators at the Mediation Center of the Pacific (MCP). Mr. Darrah is the recipient of MCP’s “Lawyer as Problem Solver” award. For more information regarding MCP, go to mediatehawaii.org.
We serve as neutral mediators assisting divorcing couples in making successful agreements regarding divorce, custody, division of property and debt, child support and child education, and spousal support.